Why Confrontation May Be Exactly What You Need In Your Dating Life

Nov 17, 2022


If you've ever been in a relationship, then you know that conflicts are inevitable. The key to healthy relationships is learning to work through those conflicts instead of ignoring them. Confrontation isn't always easy, but if you want your relationship to thrive, it's necessary—and here's why:

If something's bothering you, it will not disappear by pretending it doesn't exist.

  • If something's bothering you, it will not disappear by pretending it doesn't exist.
  • The longer you ignore the problem, the more it will fester and grow. The longer you wait to address issues in your relationship, the more difficult they become to untangle.
  • If one person feels like their needs are being neglected, or their feelings aren't being heard by their partner and don't confront them about that feeling, then this can lead to resentment over time because that person feels like they're alone in how they feel.

I've seen many cases where a couple waits until they're angry with each other before bringing up an issue—and then everything ends up getting said at once without any real resolution happening because there wasn't a calm discussion beforehand involving both parties talking calmly about what bothered them individually so that these things could be worked out before getting into an argument. If there was no discussion beforehand (or if there was but only one side spoke during that time) then things may have felt rushed or unresolved when they were brought up later on while emotions were running high; this resulted in fights which could have been avoided had there been some sort of mutual understanding beforehand ("you both want different things from life" vs "you don't respect me").

You deserve to have what you want.

You have to be honest with yourself. Just because you want something doesn't mean the other person has to give it to you. You can't expect others to read your mind, especially if they're not used to your thinking.

You must take a step back and examine the situation from their perspective—you may find that things aren't as bad as they seem. If so, work towards making amends by approaching them calmly and collected before making any demands or ultimatums (more on this later).

If not, then it might be time for some tough love instead of harboring resentment when it's all said and done!

It may be good for your relationship.

It may actually be good for your relationship.

Of course, there are times when confrontation is not appropriate or helpful. If you and your partner have a conflict involving physical violence or abuse, it's best to seek help from someone like the National Domestic Violence Hotline or call 911. The same goes if one partner is threatening or attempting suicide—that's a very serious situation that needs to be handled by professionals as soon as possible.

But confrontation could strengthen your relationship in the long run if you're just arguing about who said what over a text message last week. It all comes down to honesty: If both partners feel comfortable being open and honest with each other, they'll have more trust in each other, and their relationship will thrive!

It can definitely be intimidating, but it does get easier with practice.

First of all, let's get real: confrontation can be scary. It feels like a big deal to talk about your feelings and ask for what you want in a relationship. But here's the thing—the more you do it, the easier it gets. In fact, one study found that people who practiced confronting their partners actually found themselves more confident in their relationships and felt like they had better communication overall! Think about how much time you spend talking to your friends or family members every day—why not practice confronting them?

What are some ways you can actually prepare yourself before having a tough conversation with someone? First off, try writing out exactly what you want to say ahead of time so that there won't be any surprises or confusion on either side when it comes time for an actual face-to-face discussion. Try practicing saying these things out loud so that when push comes to shove (metaphorically speaking), everyone knows exactly where everyone stands on this issue at hand!

If you regularly call your partner out when they do something that bothers you, they'll learn how to avoid doing those things in the future.

In a relationship, you want to feel like they're on your side. You want to know they'll be there for you when things are good and bad. And while this is what most of us hope for, it's usually not the case.

When we find ourselves in relationships where our partner isn't supportive or helpful as much as we thought they would be, it can make us feel frustrated and confused about what we should do next. On the other hand, if a partner does something wrong or annoying (or even just "not quite right"), then confronting them about it becomes one way to ensure that things improve moving forward.

In any kind of relationship—whether romantic or platonic—confrontation is necessary at times so that both people involved can work toward improving their behaviors toward each other in mutually beneficial ways (and hopefully avoid conflict altogether).

The sooner you confront the issue, the better off both of you will be.

Once you see the red flags, it is important to confront them as soon as possible. If you wait too long, then it will be harder to fix the problem. It's also true that if you are too scared to confront the issue, it will only worsen, and your self-esteem will suffer. The sooner you speak up about what bothers you, the better off both of you will be.

There's no such thing as a perfect relationship.

You know what else? There is no such thing as a perfect relationship.

You might think that your boyfriend/girlfriend should always be sweet, loving, and loyal—and yes, they should be those things. But relationships are hard, and sometimes you don't get along (or they don't get along with you). That's okay! It will all be fine if you both try your best to work through the problems together.

Being honest is hard, but we have to do it if we want to have healthy relationships.

When it comes to relationships, we're all perfectly capable of being honest. The problem is that we often don't want to be.

No one wants to be in a relationship where they are constantly being lied to or kept in the dark. Yet this happens all the time because people are afraid of confrontation, and confrontation is hard (if not impossible) if your partner doesn't know what's bothering you.

Most of us have been taught that honesty is always the best policy regarding our feelings, but this isn’t always true. If there's something wrong with our relationship or how we feel about someone else, then being honest with them can cause more harm than good if they don't understand why we feel this way or how they might fix it for themselves or us!


Confrontation isn't easy, but it's necessary if you want to have a healthy relationship. If something is bothering you, don't be afraid to tell your partner about it. You deserve to have what you want and need in a relationship. And remember: no one is perfect! Even if your partner does something that bothers them in the moment, they'll learn from their mistakes and do better next time around.

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