4 Subtle Signs to Help You Figure Out When the Love is Real

personal development May 31, 2021
4 Subtle Signs to Help You Figure Out When the Love is Real

How to know if someone loves you?

Falling in love is like being on an emotional roller-coaster.  There are so many intense feelings that sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between love, and infatuation.  So what’s the secret to knowing when the love is real?  How can you know if your relationship has staying-power? Award-Winning Therapist/Writer Barton Goldsmith suggests that “If you’re in a relationship and thinking about moving in together or getting married, it’s normal to have doubts. Even if you believe that you’re with the right person… It’s important to search your hearts and ask yourself, is this for real? Will this feeling last? If you both believe the answer is yes, then you know.”

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Here are a few signs that the love in your relationship isn’t superficial:


1) It Feels Good

Love is the opposite of pain.  Love is the opposite of hardship.  It’s as simple as that. When two people are in love, the energy they exchange naturally creates harmony and balance.  Be careful not to lose sight of the fact that love should feel good.  Love should make you cherish your significant other.


2) Sacrifice Isn’t a Struggle

When two people are in love, they would do anything for each other.  They have each other’s backs, and they’re willing to compromise with each other.  Love is a selfless emotion.  It brings people together through shared kindness and generosity.


3) Respect Comes Organically

Real love is built on a foundation of acceptance.  When judgment or contempt exists in a relationship, disrespect makes it difficult to get along.  Experiencing the type of love which fosters respect means that both partners are willing to be open and honest.  They’re willing to make things work even when mistakes are made, or lines are crossed.


4) It Isn’t Scary to Think About Sharing the Future

When authentic love truly takes root in a relationship, you and your partner shouldn’t have butterflies about commitment.  Not that there isn’t any uncertainty to deal with, but it should feel more and more comfortable imagining a lifelong journey together.



t the end of the day, the biggest way to tell that your love is real, boils down to one element.  Reciprocity.  If all the affection in your relationship is mutual, that means love is being exchanged.  It means kindness is being used to multiply kindness, caring is being used to multiply caring, and intimacy is being used to multiply intimacy.  This is the way love is supposed to work.  Love is supposed to flow freely between you and your significant other. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative courses, workshops and events listed on our websites and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Academy can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success. For business development coaching by Richard Martinez, call at 626-202-2291 or follow us on Facebook and Instagram.


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