3 Important Questions You Need to Ask on the First Date

communication personal development relationships romantic relationships Mar 28, 2022
3 Important Questions You Need to Ask on the First Date

So you've landed the first date. Congrats! There are lots of ways this could go.

We've all been there—on a first date, hoping it will be the last first date you ever have to endure. You're sitting across from this person you might want to spend some time with, and you realize that the only thing you know about them is their name.

No matter how many first dates you've been on, they're never exactly easy to navigate. You're so busy trying to seem like an awesome, chill person that it's hard to take the time and energy to actually find out if they can be a good match for you. And while it might not seem like it at the time, asking important questions early on is the perfect way to get to know someone better and see if they have the traits and values you're looking for in a potential partner.

If you don't know each other very well, the best way to find out is by asking open-ended questions. These are questions that require more than one-word answers, and they're designed to get you to talk about yourself more openly.

But how are you supposed to go deeper? What are the right questions to ask on a first date?

Well, we're here to help! We've got three important questions that'll help make sure you can determine whether or not you'd want to spend more time with your date.

Here are some important questions to ask on that first date:

1. What are your goals?

Some people want to start a family, and others don't; some people want to break into the mob, and others are just looking for love. This is a great way to make sure you're both on the same page about how long you see this relationship lasting.

Knowing where someone is headed in life can be helpful—and it's also nice to share what your goals are, too! Sometimes people date each other because they have similar visions for the future, and sometimes they don't—and both can be totally fine! But if you're looking for a partner who loves to do the exact same things as you, asking about their goals is important.

2. What do you believe in?

Do you believe in God? Which one? Are you an alien? This question is often a good one to ask on a first date—it gives you an idea of what’s important to the person, and it can also spark some interesting conversations.

This can be anything from religion to politics to their personal philosophies. Remember that this is not only a great opportunity to find out more about them, but it’s also a great chance for you to share your own beliefs and give them an idea of what’s important to you.

It's also useful because you can find out how open-minded they are—are they willing to listen and understand? Or is their mind already made up?

3. What do you do for fun?

This is a biggie. Though it might seem like a "duh" question, it's important to know what a potential love interest does in their free time. This can tell you so much about someone's personality, their interests, and if they match up with yours. Also, knowing how someone spends their free time is telling of the type of person they are. If someone doesn't have any interests outside of work or school, this could indicate that they're not well-rounded or that there are things in their life they're avoiding. On the other hand, if someone loves to go skydiving on the weekends, that could reveal an adventurous streak. Either way, it's useful information to have early on.


Remember, questions are important on a first date because they can show you what type of person your date is. They might be adventurous, or they might be very careful. It can also tell you how much they have thought about your conversation and how serious they are about their relationship with you.

First dates are awkward. There's no getting around it. You're pretty much guaranteed to be a nervous mess and sweat through your outfit by the end of it.

First dates are also an opportunity to get to know someone in a unique and special way, outside the constraints of your everyday life. You've got to go into it with something in mind because if you don't set yourself up for success, you'll have nothing to talk about except the weather. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative courses, workshops, and events listed on our websites and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, health and wellness, bettering your relationships, or the overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (800) 913-0222 to find out how Richard Martinez can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.

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